Board Thread:Character Discussion/@comment-34563899-20180202235154/@comment-31231929-20180206013829

CoolDudeAl wrote: Lady Junky wrote:

CoolDudeAl wrote: Regarding this whole who's the victim and who's the abuser situation, I think that both Rumple and Milah abused each other in various ways. They are both very flawed characters for various reasons, and they both wound up abandoning Bae. So I don't think either one of them can be considered just a victim to the other, they were both victimized by each other. How so? How Rumple abused Milah? I'd like one real example of that, cos for now, everyone failed to give a real one.

Also, would be cool to stop the victim blaming there. Rumple never abused Milah, that was entirely up on her. Not because Rumple is a man, that Milah could not abuse him. Domestic abuse is a real thing to people from ALL genders.

It isn't the same time of abuse as she did (which was more direct), it was more of an indirect abuse. He was careless with decisions he made, including ones that would effect Milah. And, I know you say it doesn't count because it happened later, but ultimatly killing Milah for leaving him and Bae, would definitly fall under some sort of abuse. Again, I totally agree that Milah was also abusive to Rumple, but I don't think it is as one sided as one or other users are making it out to be.

This is kind of what I'm leaning towards. They were both abusive, just in different ways. However, I think Milah's abuse is more understandable because it was a reaction to her being abused.