Thread:Nightlily/@comment-5679696-20170410001951/@comment-91424-20170412024336

"The question is, why did she? Was it something in the actual comment that gave her that unbelievably wrong impression (...)?" Yeah, it was something in the actual comment. The problem was the ^^ at the end. In text, all tone is lost, because you can't hear the person, and all you have, is what is written. The smileys made the comment look sarcastic.

"Would [Lily] have thought the same had it been an anonymous user? Yeah, I can promise you that I would. If another user had added ^^ at the end of that sentence, I would definitely have read the comment as sarcastic. Even if it were ChocolatEyes, Utter, AppleGirl, Ruben, Kyle, EvertheVillain, or anyone else.

You have to stop acting like misunderstanding someone is some form of harassment. It is not. Lady was not harassed in any way - I was respectful and polite in my warning, and apologized for the misunderstanding afterward. And what about all the times that you misunderstood someone on this wiki or made a mistake? Let me give you two examples: Once, in chat, you admonished me because you mistakenly thought I had deleted something without permission, - which I hadn't. And once, you lashed out in anger, saying that I was involved in Gusey's demotion - even though I wasn't even a staff member then, and had nothing to do with what happened. Now, I could have berated you and scolded you for that, but all I did, was set the facts straight, and told you that I hadn't deleted said content (but some other content), and reminded you that I had nothing to do with Gusey. I would never hold it against someone for misunderstanding, and I expect you to do the same.

"You forcefully removed [Lady] from the staff in a fishy and shady way." You know fully well that Lady was demoted after episodes of bullying (these are mentioned in Utter's warning here), and multiple episodes of nasty comments and insults toward other users. Three of many examples: She insulted one user by calling said person stupid during group chat ("we should ban you for stupidity"). She referred to another user as an idiot. When I made her aware of how unacceptable this was, her only response was "I don't care :-)" (yes, with a smiley). Third example: Here she responds to a user during a discussion about policies, and implies that the person cannot find or read the policies: "Since apparently you can't find it or read it, well that's the point of the policies for you :)" And your fellow admins are not the only ones noticing these things. If you want another user's input, here is an old comment from ChocolatEyes: "Lady's demotion was well-deserved. She was notorious for being rude to members in the chat."

I will always defend people when I think they are being harassed like this. I'm sorry, but that is not true. I can mention several instances where you did nothing of the sort.
 * When Lady insulted a fellow user by calling them stupid to their face (already mentioned), and referred to another user as an idiot, you did not interfere. I was the one who had to tell her that this was completely unacceptable, because you didn't.
 * There was one episode where Lady, in chat, kept accusing me of breaking the rules and using illegal image sources. I clearly told you that her behavior was bothering me and that I was tired of being accused of breaking the rules every time I visited chat, and that if it didn't stop, I would have to stop coming to chat. You could have asked her, nicely, to take the discussion to my wall instead, but you didn't. All you said, was that it would be a pity if I stopped coming to chat.
 * Did you give her a warning on her wall when she insulted a user by implying that they were unable to find or read the policies (already mentioned)? I'm sorry to say it, but you didn't.
 * When Lady threatened me on chat, saying that she could remove my trivia sources and make my trivia worthless, I informed you about this right away, but you brushed it off and did nothing. (And yes, you offered to take care of it the second time I mentioned it, but that doesn't matter - you still brushed it off and did nothing the first time I explained it to you, which was unacceptable.)
 * And here we have a warning from AppleGirl on Lady's wall. A warning that should have come from you, but it didn't.