Thread:Utter solitude/@comment-6175354-20140909001049/@comment-16953943-20140909192355

Lady Junky wrote: I won't be really involve in this discussion because I just noticed this thread when utter closed it. Shadows, I can understand you like when we talk about "serious questions" in some threads. Me too I like that. But, here I want to talk about your... alarming message. Did you really compare a thread about rape with a thread about homosexuality? Because it is two completely different topics. I mean, when I read your message, I understand you're saying utter is someone who is close-minded because she could have been bothered by a topic about rape. Seriously? You compared two things which are not similar. Moreover, you used that in order to be rude with utter. Because yes, you're rude with your message. You're saying utter is not different from someone who is homophobe.

'''I was comparing how she closed a topic simply because it made her uncomfortable, and gave an example of another situation where someone would do that, which I feel is also wrong.. I was not comparing rape to homosexuality nor was I saying she was a homophobe.'''

You're saying she is a admin who did an abuse of power - because yes, when you say "Wouldn't want to accidently give the impression of abuse of power. :)", that's exactly what you did - just because you did not appreciate she closed this thread. And that's NOT acceptable.

'''I know she didn't really abuse her power, but it can come across that way. I was simply trying to gently make her aware of that. I even put the smiley face to show her that I knew she didn't intend for it to seem that way. That's also why I said "accidently give the impression".'''

We're a wiki. We're a community. So, everyone needs to be okay with our discussions on the wiki.

'''If everyone had to be ok with a topic, nobody would be able to talk about anything. Instead, everyone's opinion should be valid, even if other's disagree.'''

If you don't see it, two persons thanked utter after she closed the thread, which prove she is not the only one who had this opinion about the thread.

'''I never said or assumed she was. However, if the two other individuals didn't like the discussion, they could have simply not clicked on it and/or engaged in it. If I see a topic that bothers me, I scroll past it and find one I like. I don't expect the admins to close it unless people are not being civil about the discussion or are spamming.'''

So you can't say she did an abuse of power, because people approved her.

As I said above:  '''I know she didn't really abuse her power, but it can come across that way. I was simply trying to gently make her aware of that. I even put the smiley face to show her that I knew she didn't intend for it to seem that way. That's also why I said "accidently give the impression".'''

But seriously, comparing utter to a homophobe just because she closed a thread about rape, it is something I really don't like. Comparing rape to homosexuality is something really stupid - yes, I'm not affraid by the word.

'''What word are you refering to? I honestly have no idea what word you assume I think your "afraid" of. I'm truly lost on that.'''

And, really rude. A person who does not like topics about rape is necessarily someone who does not like topics about homosexuality? Because, someone does not like talk about rape he could be compared to a homophobe? That's really your argument?

Again, as I said above:  '''I was comparing how she closed a topic simply because it made her uncomfortable, and gave an example of another situation where someone would do that, which I feel is also wrong.. I was not comparing rape to homosexuality nor was I saying she was a homophobe.'''

I will just end this message by saying you really should apologize. Because, yeah, you were rude and insulting. I will not apologize for what I said, but I will apologize if it came across the wrong way.