Board Thread:Character Discussion/@comment-11058666-20150901033946/@comment-25701646-20151001000617

DavidTenantIsMy Angel: I think you should tone it down a bit or reword it so that you're not making broad claims that everyone loves female villains and that you "know for a fact" they wouldn't love them if they were male.

You're right that OUAT has brushed aside a lot of the crimes of villains (and all villains, not just the female ones). It doesn't call attention to the fact that Regina raped Graham. I think the closest it's come to acknowledeging that a male being forced to have sex via magic or having sex under false pretenses is rape is when Zelena admitted that Robin was unwilling and Robin replied with "very unwilling". It doesn't point out that Regina making Henry think he was crazy was psychological abuse. The show doesn't show characters repenting for individual crimes so much as decideing they want to change and, while it's implied they're sorry, not having them apologize to individuals kind of puts a blanket over just how many people were hurt. And some people do romanticize the villains, either forgetting their crimes or pretending their justified because of some trauma the villain went through.

However, your original post seems to make the assumption that everyone in the fandom is the same, when they're not. A lot of people hate the villains. A lot of people  love them because they're such complex characters, but don't seek to justify their crimes. Other people love to hate them. You bring up several good points and while it's probably true of a lot of fans, it's definitely not true of all. If you want to discuss sexism, I suggest maybe looking through topics for people who do seem guilty of sexism and pointing out hypocrisy in their statements in a polite manner, or maybe just making a post entitled something along the lines of "Sexism in OUAT" and pointing out what you see in the show and what you've seen some people say, instead of accusing the whole fandom of sexism.