Board Thread:Character Discussion/@comment-34563899-20180202235154/@comment-2153169-20180204233104

Aine1989 wrote: Lady Junky wrote: And, even if Rumple refused, she could have left. Nothing was stopping her. Actually, she even did. She pretended to be kidnapped. Apparently, she was not even able to tell him right in front of him that she was leaving. So, let's not put that on Rumple.

Okay something happened with my post so I'll try again.

Your problem is you are playing the "If she was so miserable why didn't she just leave" card, which is blatnat victim blaming.

Also you shame Milah for not leaving then shame her for leaving. Said the one who's so blinded by her hate for Rumple that she refuses to see a blatant example of domestic abuse?

If that was victim blaming, then it'd mean I blame her for not doing something while she was unable to do it. Fine. Tell me, then. Why Milah did not leave? What was stopping her to leave? The fact that she'd have nowhere to go? Snow & Red did it themselves, and they were less ressourceful than Milah so... Her love for her son? I proved on many occasions that she does not care about her mother responsabilibites. Heck, even her casting call says that she does not care about them. Her love for Rumple? She abused him for years, she was not in love.

You obviously ignore what is a domestic abuse, if you choose to ignore what Milah did. Because, the hating for someone/a character is not an excuse to pretend an abuse never happened. Milah was 100% wrong from the moment she started to blame Rumple and humiliate him FOR YEARS, because he chose his son rather than death. She did it, these are easy facts from all of her episodes. How can you seriously even pretend that's not real and/or wrong?

At the end, it appears that you are the one doing victim blaming, as you accuse Rumple of being the origin of something that Milah created by herself. Everything started because of her poor reaction, and her very first abuse: telling Rumple that he should be dead. And don't play the "years of unhappiness can explain why she is mean to him" card. That was one of the first things she said to him, right after he came back. There is no excuse in there. Blaming a father for choosing his son rather than himself? Come on!

Also, you're wrong on something else. I don't blame Milah for leaving. Actually, I said it. It was her right, she was completely free to do it. And she was right to do it, as she was really unhappy. What was wrong is the way she left. Faking a kidnapping AND abandonning her son behind her? Like really? You do not see the problem there?