Thread:Utter solitude/@comment-6175354-20140909001049/@comment-16953943-20140909185919

I understand you are trying to do your job as admin, but part of that is being careful not to let your personal feelings cloud your ability to be fair. You may not realize it, but that's exactly what you did when you closed that topic.

"Discussing rape and trying to draw comparisons to it has NO place here." That is simply your opinion. Now if people had began insulting each other and calling names and spewing hate, then I'd understand the closing of the topic as that is hurtful to others. A discussion about rape/rape culture, with different view points, being discussed in a civil manner, is not and therefore has no reason to be closed.

You said that "The rape culture argument can be made and is interesting to discuss, but rape discussions are off limits." I don't know if you realize this, but you can't really talk about rape culture without actual rape being discussed alongside it. They are too closely connected.

Also, I don't understand why it matters if the topic was resurected after 3 months. I'd rather expand a topic on an already existing thread, than to have 100+ threads made discussing the same thing.

I want you to re-read what Oncer 90 said here: "Even if you disagree, engage and discuss, please don’t disregard. Shutting it down just negates the purpose." This is exactly how I feel. Everyone has different views and interpretations when they watch/read/listen to anything. It's a beautiful thing and it should be allowed to be expressed and shared. When I was reading the thread, I was upset that I couldn't share my opinion, which wasn't really like any of the others posted. My perspective was shut out. By closing down topics simply because of your personal feelings on the subject, you can make a lot of people be hesistant to even talk about anything beyond ships and superficial nonsense. If posters know that someone on the admin team dislikes a topic, (such as rape), then they will not feel welcome to express something that alarmed them about the way something was written, (such as the way Hook persued Emma.) Do I personally agree with that perspective? Not really. I don't see Hook's pursuit of Emma as being similar to rape, but that doesn't mean it's not interesting to read how others percieve it.

Am I trying to be hostile with you? No. Your a human being, and by nature are not perfect. That's ok. None of us are perfect. I'm not sure of your age, so you might be quite young. If that's the case, here's a little advice. Try to remember that as an admin, you need to be open to constructive critisim. Not everyone is trying to step on your toes, or be hostile. (though I understand there are many who do.) I dont' know if that's what you thought I was doing by bringing this up, but that was not my intention, and I apologize if it came across that way.