Board Thread:Spoilers!/@comment-4877635-20130614170253/@comment-22525977-20131018050022

XxBadWolfxX wrote: Now you know how I would feel. I feel it doesn't belong in mainstream shows. The reason why you feel its so great is because so few are practicing it. What if that number grew to say... Most of the population. Then we have a problem. The reason the numbers are so low is (a) stigma and a cultural preference for monogamy and (b) not everyone is polyamorous just like not everyone is gay. There's more than likely also a genetic component just as there is for sexual and romantic orientations and gender identity.

Forcing someone who is innately monogamous to be poly is not going to end well. Forcing someone who is innately poly to be monogamous is not going to end well. These are two sides of a large spectrum; some people are monogamous by preference but would be okay in a poly relationship, and others are poly by preference but would be okay in a monogamous relationship.

I'm not advocating that everyone be poly at all (for one thing—hi! I'm aromantic!), anymore than advocating gay rights means that I want all heterosexuals to "become" gay/stop dating people of the opposite gender/get divorced from their hetero spouses. The key word is "equal," not "better than."