Board Thread:Character Discussion/@comment-34563899-20180202235154/@comment-2153169-20180204173245

Aine1989 wrote: Lady Junky wrote:

Aine1989 wrote:

Lady Junky wrote:

Aine1989 wrote: Anyways I am very tired but here [a meta that explains my point] This post is the exact same explanation you gave, and I could give the exact same answer. Hating on Rumple is not an excuse to fail to see or excuse Milah's domestic abuse.

Milah was clearly an abuser in their relationship, and there are enough arguments to make such a huuuuge post to show it.

Only if you ignore the fact that Rumple kept her in a toxic situation that was damaging to her mental health Rumple kept her? No, I'm sorry, but no. He did NOT kept her in a toxic situation.

First of all, SHE created this toxic situation by immediatly abusing Rumple as soon as he came back. She did not try to understand him, & she did not give him a single chance. She immediatly told him that he should have died.

And, come on, Rumple "kept her"? She could have left, like immediatly. She could have taken Bae, and leave immediatly. Not like Rumple was a problem to anyone. He was psychologically (and so, physically, I'm pretty sure) weaker than her. She would had zero problem to just leave. So no.

"Damaging to her mental health"? Please, she never showed any sign of damaged mental health x) Being unhappy in her life is not a sign of damaged mental health x) And, she had zero problem abusing Rumple right from the beginning, abandoning Bae at multiple times, or going have some fun with Hook and the pirates x)

Amazing how Milah gets shamed for not leaving, then gets shamed for leaving. She cannot win.​​​​​​ Where was she going to go? How would she get the money for food, travelling, where would she get a new home? If she had, I am sure you would have dragged her through the mud for that.

Milah did not make her family outcasts. Rumple did that and then refused to accept responsibility for the consequences on his family.

I think if someone says their life isn't really a life, there is a problem with their mental health. ​​​​​​ No, Milah can't win. After what she did, no. And the fact that she left is not a problem. She totally had the right to leave. But, she left by abandoning Bae, her own son, behind him; she left by pretending a fake kidnapping. They were better ways to leave.

Where she would go? You mean like Snow or Red did before her? Please, OUAT has showed multiple instances of female characters leaving their homes, and being able to live by themselves. Milah has showed that she is a ressourceful and strong-willed woman. She has no excuse, she totally had the possibility to leave Rumple.

Milah is the one who created the toxic atmosphere. Rumple did that for his son, to be with him, and not abandoning him. He knew how people would react to that, and he still did that. Milah has showed zero support to Rumple. NEVER. She told him he should have died right after he came back. Milah was part of people who publicly shamed Rumple. She is totally part of people who made her own husband a social pariah.

This entire situation is because Milah refused - or even tried - to support him in his decision. Again, she created the toxic atmosphere. She did not even try. If she really loved Rumple, she would have tried. But she did not.